Sometimes you just need to put something on video. As promised in the video here is the link to the original blog, You Are Not Equal, I’m Sorry. After viewing the video please click over and give the author, Dina Leygerman, the views she deserves!
Just over a year ago I traveled to India for work. Our offices were located just outside of Bangalore and the hotel I stayed at was just down the street. It was pretty easy to get around. All I had to do was get in a car that was waiting for me and go from hotel to office and back again. That was part of my problem. From reading this blog you know that I do a lot of outside exercise. The back and forth from one artificial environment to the other was making me claustrophobic and just a little more than a little crazy. At one point I’d had it and I went to the desk to ask them if it was okay if I ran up the road (it was a big loooooonnnnnngggg road) for 2 miles and back. Just 2 miles and back. I’m sure I’d make friends with a few street dogs along the way but dogs like me so that was cool. “Oooooh NO ma’am,” was the answer. It was said with such certainty and a dash of “are you off your rocker” attitude that I didn’t even question it and instead slowly shuffled off to the hotel’s tiny smelly gym. Based on recent news stories out of India about gang rape victims I suppose I should send the hotel a gift basket.
Honestly my personal relationship with violence against women is non-existent. I was lucky to grow up in an atmosphere where women are equal, not possessions, and sometimes even a tad bit smarter than the male sex (wink). Still, I realize this isn’t true of all countries, of all families, and of all people.
Feb. 14th has been designated the day for one billion to rise up against violence against women ( http://www.onebillionrising.org/). One Billion Rising is an event led by V-Day, a global activist movement to end violence against women and girls founded by Eve Ensler (author of the Vagina Monologues). According to the web site:
“The concept of the campaign [One Billion Rising] is simple. If you take into account the statistic that 1 out of 3 women will experience violence in her lifetime, you are left with the staggering statistic that over 1 billion women on this planet will be impacted by violence. On V-Day’s 15th Anniversary, 2.14.13, we are inviting ONE BILLION women and those who love them to WALK OUT, DANCE, RISE UP, and DEMAND an end to this violence. V-Day wants the world to see our collective strength, our numbers, our solidarity across borders.”
I plan to take part in the event and would love if you would as well. Visit the event web site to search gatherings that are happening locally. The movement is global but if there isn’t an event close you can learn the dance to Break the Chain and jump out of your chair midday for a solo dance party! (Video of song with dance is embedded below. You can also find a how-to video online where Debbie Allen will break it down for you.)
Woman freakin’ rock — and rock hard!
(First set of pictures is of some of my favorite ladies dancing, just because it is fun, in Bangalore. Second set of pictures is of some of my favorite ladies dancing at Dee Dee’s bachelorette party in downtown LA.)
(Riggins did not enjoy this photo session. He is currently pouting because I forced him to do it.)
I just saw Hansel & Gretel: Witch Hunters. I liked it! Granted I’m an easy sell when it comes to movies but even so it was well worth my discounted before noon/weekday ticket price. Just like any good fairy tale it was creepy (name me one fairy tale that doesn’t give you the chills if you really think about it) and had wonderful messages. One, of course, is that evil eventually makes you ugly not only on the inside but the outside. Good witches are pretty all the time. Bad witches have no choice but to become ugly. I’m not ruining anything for you here. You’ve seen Wizard of Oz so I assume you are up to speed on the whole witch beauty thing. It seemed perfect that after the movie I Operation Beautiful bombed the crap out of that place. (More on Operation Beautiful in a bit.)
It made me start thinking of the whole bullying issue (stay with me here). Bullying is the key hot topic right now and of course it is hurtful and bad but are we tackling it the right way by saying, “don’t bully – it’s mean?” Deep down doesn’t the big fat meany bully already know he is being mean? Unless he is truly mentally unstable (which I suppose is possible) this should come as no big surprise to the bully. “Oh wait. This is mean? I’m just doing this due to my insecurity and need for external validation from my peers? Well good thing you told me. I’ll stop now.” Give these kids some credit won’t you? There is a PSA type TV commercial that is running right now that is making me crazy. Granted bad commercials in general chap my hide but this one is both bad and treats it’s viewer like he is stupid. Horrible combination. It has some girl getting practically thrown on the ground and kicked Jet Lee style in the school hall by the lockers (what school has lockers anymore) while others ignore the abuse. Come on. Seriously? Besides isn’t childhood bullying usually more emotional in nature especially among girls? The level of beat down this kid is taking while others just pass by is ridiculous. Instead of going negative with our message why don’t we turn it positive? Give praise and awards for being nice and doing good deeds. Kids aren’t stupid (most of them anyway). Why are we treating them like they are.
I love following blogs and such of people trying to pass out messages of happiness and strength. This isn’t new (I never watched Oprah but this is very Oprah-esk) but it seems to be catching on which is amazingly wonderful!
If you follow @AnnCurry on Twitter or search the hashtag #26acts you will find a treasure trove of people reaching out and being kind. (More info on how and why Ann Curry started this viral push toward niceness – http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-205_162-57560308/ann-curry-proposes-26acts-of-kindness-goes-viral/) You can’t read through very many before you start crying and believing that humanity is indeed good (unless you have no soul or are a bad witch).
Now, as promised, more on Operation Beautiful (http://www.operationbeautiful.com/). Per the web site – “The goal of the Operation Beautiful website is to end negative self-talk or “Fat Talk.” If this little blog only does one productive thing, I hope it helps readers realize how truly toxic negative self-talk is — it hurts you emotionally, spiritually, and physically.” To participate you grab a sticky note pad and a pen and write out positive messages to strangers then leave them in places they will be found. The woman who started this movement, Caitlin Boyle, is adorable. Truthfully I don’t follow her Operation Beautiful blog but I do read her personal blog (http://www.healthytippingpoint.com/). Caitlin also goes around the US conducting inspirational discussions with teenagers within high schools spreading her message that everyone is beautiful. Although aimed toward teens, who are often at the age where you struggle with your self-identity and care deeply about what others think, I’m all for getting the message out to adults as well. Seriously, if I was on a date and, feeling self-conscious, popped into the restroom to “freshen up” (aka try to slather on more make up in an attempt to look alluring) and came across a post-it staring at me telling me I was already beautiful it would be a game changer. I’d drop my make-up bag back into my purse, stand up a little straighter, smile at myself in the mirror and pronounce, “That’s right! F*** it. Let’s go do this thing Post-It” and then proudly head back to my date with more self-esteem than before. I’d love it if more people around the world became a part of Operation Beautiful. It’s so easy and can lead to such happiness.
There is another duo of woman specifically crusading against the negative, harmful, and untruthful messages about the ideal beauty as portrayed by the media. They have started “Beauty Redefined” (http://www.beautyredefined.net/). Much like Caitlin the founders, Lindsay and Lexie Kite, are inspirational speakers and spread their message through presentations along with Facebook and Twitter. They actually sell pre-printed post-it notes through their site, with messages that are designed to spread ideas of positive self-image and knock down any media that is helping spread visual lies. I really like two parts of Beauty Redefined. First of all they have an entire photo album on Facebook dedicated to real, un-photoshopped women who are proud of who they are (http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.426191410745343.98353.193209467376873&type=3). They also have an eye-opening gallery of photoshopped pictures of celebrities that is just fascinating (http://www.beautyredefined.net/photoshop-phoniness-hall-of-shame/). These pictures are supposed to show us that even those gorgeous models and actors on the cover of that magazine aren’t that skinny and perfect looking in reality. You know what it shows me???? It shows me with a little better lighting, a snazzy make-up artist, and a buttload of computer wizardry I too could be a super model! That just makes me happy!!!!
Happy Friday and remember you are beautiful (no matter what any asshat may say to you)!