As you know from a past post I decided to quite Chemistry.com.  If you read this blog at all the reasons should be obvious.  I still have a few days left on my membership, so I decided to throw caution to the wind and just hit “I’m Interested” on every single person the magic web site matched me up with.   Horrible spelling errors … go ahead.  Unnatural connection to your mother … no problem, please continue.  Lack of job, live with family, 10 roommates, 55 years old … whatever.  Then I came across a photo that was so jarring I couldn’t do it.  I couldn’t press the promised button.  This guy wasn’t horrible looking but he was creeping me out.  He looked like Ernie (as in Bert and) on cocaine and was staring into my soul.  Even for fun I couldn’t hit the “I’m Interested” button.  I’m sorry Ernie.  I just couldn’t do it.

The Chemistry.com fun isn’t over yet friends. My subscription still has a few days on it. Long enough for this gem.

Now that I’ve hit the “resigned” button more guys seem to be noticing me. Oh Chemistry.com. You are so wacky. Someone today felt we should be a match. Here is what he says about himself:

I received the following email from a Match.com user:

“hi

hi Wendy:

how are you? I am a member now:)”

Doesn’t it seem like he knows me? Like he signed up so he could talk to me? I scratched my head and wondered if I was missing something so I went through my old emails on the system and I don’t think I’ve ever communicated with him … ever. I don’t know how to respond.

“I’m good. Good for you.”

“Okay. Welcome to membership.”

“Fine. Want to go for a jogg?” (Spelling taken from his profile. I figure it would be best to speak his language.)

“I’m doing well. Good for you. Way to fill out a profile. I’m proud of you!”

“Great. Finally! Thank God. Do you want to get married now?”

I think all those responses are appropriate.

Per my post yesterday I’ve cancelled my Chemistry.com membership. If you have read this blog at all you know why. Still some may think I’m being a bit harsh on the system. For you people I decided to give you a visual. Above are just a few of the 259+ men who I have shown interest in and never heard from … ever. That is right. I “showed interest” (meaning I passed them to the next level in the silly database) in over 259 men and not one of them decided to contact me back.

Sounds like really bad odds to me!

I was 1/2 through my “matches” on Chemistry.com today and thought ENOUGH. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. So I hit the “resign” button. My subscription ends mid October and then I’m done with Chemistry. I’ve been a member since 2007 with just a handful of dates. So goodbye.

The one who is most hurt by this separation is you. Most of my “funny” profiles and comments came from Chemistry.com. Even so, I can’t go on. For my sanity I have to resign and move on. I’m sure I can find poor souls unable to spell other places.

Speaking of where should I sign up now? I need a site to fill the void of Chemistry. what do you think?

My profile on the online dating sites is very clear. It states “Woman seeking Man.” Not that there is anything wrong with any other combination of these words, that is what mine says. So, obviously, the people who come up as matched to me by Chemistry.com are men. Those who I pass on to the next level (showing I’m interested) are men. From there we can email back and forth and/or play silly Chemistry, get to know you, reindeer games. Explain then this email I just received from some gentleman?

(This spacing is straight from his original letter. Signs of a bad cut and paste job.)

“Hello Dear,You have a lovely profile.Was actually caught up by you and to my satisfaction, i was really amazed when i set my eyes on this astonished pic of

yours, You look pretty,didnt hesitate to send you a letter . I hope it didnt bug you somehow? I am single and never married with no Kids. I am looking to

meet that special someone but so far havent found one yet. I know Good things deserves patience, so in otherwords, I am not in any rush. Just searching and

been optimistic hoping one day he will come take me off my feets..lol…I feel quite delighted hearing from you and writing this to you. I joined this

website few days back and i realized most of the profiles have read haven’t been that impressive compared to yours,so i thought i should know a little more

about your unique and differences from other Men. Getting to find true love is kinda getting harder as the day goes by as almost everybody i come across

wants that good time just having sex and notwanting true love, True love don’t Lie,it knows no Boundary,its like a seed that Germinates and once it is

planted,it extends it branches beyond a limit of attach Women behavior towards racism,Custom and tradition, I am Originally from Cali but have always want a

life anywhere love takes me or some Natural state place, i will be willing to relocate for that special man for me and settle down to start a new life

together, If you want to talk to me, My email is xxx[email address edited for the privacy of this moron] at yahoo,

so you will have to know that its:
xxx[edited again because that is how dumb this person is]@yahoo.com

Pls do keep in touch if you’ve got a chance.I will be anxiously waiting to hear from you, send me a reply on my email alone cos i am not used to this Yahoo

personals site.

I hope you will keep in touch. “

I wrote back suggesting they double check the sex of the person they are spamming with their bullshit prior to hitting the send button. I’d like to think that little comment will ruin their day but I doubt they care.

E-mail I received from someone Chemistry.com matched me up with. Please note I do not know this man, have never met this man, have never emailed this man. THIS is his first communication with me … ever.

“i found you as one of my match on this site and i thought i should say hi,I have read your profile,all i can say is that i would like to share more than words and make something work with the heart also…really can’t wait to have a chat with or email you,let me know if you very much single and if you have found anyone yet on here ?
I like the friendship, passion, intensity and eroticism that develops and flourishes with someone special in the chemistry and the connection feels exactly — I think this is the key to making any relationship more fun, exciting and durable …. and I love to spoil, pamper and enjoying that one special woman in my life! … I am a big friend, companion, partner, confidant, mentor and benefactor
I wish i could be invited to your place for coffee or tea to make you cookies,i love baking a lot,cause i am having some right now,i can add you on IM if you have one you can also add me on your own IM******oo.com you can add me now or drop me an offline when i on break from work i would check my IM for your messages okay..
so sorry i can’t write much now i am short of words now !!!!!!
sure you are having a great day
bye
David “

Now you may think I am being too harsh and/or hard on this guy. BUT really he is being sort of creepy don’t you think? What happened to a nice short and non creepy opening email? Something like,
“Hi. I really liked your profile. I’d love to meet for drinks sometime this week if you are available. Let me know.”
Is that really too much to ask?

Last night I received an email from a friend and fellow online dater. The email contained a lengthy correspondence from a gentleman at match.com interested in her. It was pretty bad. The guy was obviously insane. A very lengthy email, honestly I didn’t read the entire thing, about him looking for his soul mate and willing to move anywhere she is located. Something about getting his heart broken. Something about if you aren’t into marriage don’t even respond. Blah blah blah. Crazy crazy crazy. Blah blah blah.

Yet my response to her was:
“Yeah. That’s a good one. At least he can spell though.”

AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL. That is what I’ve been driven to. That now overshadows anything else that could possibly be wrong. AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL. THAT is how low the bar is.

Probably on a strong cocktail of prescription medication for his multiple personalities — AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

Worships at the feet of Tom Cruise and an alien ship —AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

May have women tied up in his basement — AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

His ex-wife has a hit out on him and/or a restraining order — AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

He is a cat person and thinks dogs are evil — AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

He still lives with him parents but has the garage set up to rock his large collection of video games — AT LEAST HE CAN SPELL.

Sigh.

One of today’s Chemistry.com matches.

In his own words:
“I’m an easy going person how likes to meet new and exceting people. i like teking long drive by the beach.. and i also enjoy going to the movies with friends..and dinning out…… I’m lokking for someone who is honest… how undrstand what love should be… someone how is willing to love and be loved.. Someone how enjoy life and everthing around them.. someone how is easy to talk to about abything..”